The Government is listening. We want to make sure every person impacted by domestic abuse is heard. On the 8th March, the government launched a public consultation to improve the response to domestic abuse. Anyone can contribute their ideas, if you would like to do so, follow this link: http://bit.ly/GovernmentSurvey
But we know that not everyone will have the time to fill this in so we've developed Every Story Matters. This is a simple anonymous way to share your views. You don't need to answer anything you don't want. Just share what you feel is important. You're the expert, it's our job to make sure the Government is listening.
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Chapter One

Let's start from the beginning
 
When you were growing up, did you talk about domestic abuse with anyone?


 
Do you feel you know what counts as domestic abuse?


 
What do you think could be done to help people understand what domestic abuse is?

Share your ideas and thoughts in the text box below, or scroll down to upload a video or audio response from your phone or computer.
 
Your words. Your story. Your say.

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Or feel free to move forward to the next question.
 
Chapter Two

Domestic abuse can happen to anyone. No one should live in fear.
 
Have you ever felt afraid of anyone?

(Check all that apply)

 
Can you tell us what they did to cause that fear? (for example they may have caused physical harm or tried to control your action in some way) Do not feel you need to answer this question.

 
Your words. Your story. Your say.

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Or feel free to move forward to the next question.
 
Are you still afraid of that person?

     
 
No one should live in fear. There is help out there.

Get help if you are experiencing abuse : http://www.safelives.org.uk/node/278
 
Did that person/people ever use money as a way to control you or cause you harm?

This could be stopping access to money, stopping you from working, forcing you into debt or not allowing you to use the car and other belongings
     
 
Can you tell us a little about how that person used money to control you or stop you being financially independent?

 
Your words. Your story. Your say.

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Should the government include economic abuse when they talk about domestic abuse?

     
 
Chapter Three

It’s very hard to tell people what is happening. We want to know how we can ensure that when someone does open up, that person gets the right response.
 
Have you told anyone about the abuse? @

     
 
Who did you tell first? (Tick all that apply)


 
What response did they give you? (Tick all that apply)


 
What response would you have liked?

 
Did you find support & information online?


 
If you didn’t go online to get support, can you tell us where you went instead?

 
Let us know of any ideas you’d like to suggest to the government about online support/technology

 
Your words. Your story. Your say.

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Or feel free to move forward to the next question.
 
Chapter Four

Perpetrators are the people causing harm. What could be done differently in response to those causing that harm?
 
If you are no longer with the person causing the abuse, do you know what happened to them?


 
What do you wish would happen to people causing harm?

 
Your words. Your story. Your say.

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Did you want to stay with the person causing harm?


 
Do you think any of these sound like a good idea for perpetrators of domestic abuse? (tick all/any that apply)


 
Chapter Five

We know 1 in 5 children experience domestic abuse
 
Do you have children?

     
 
Can you give us any detail about how you think they may have been affected? (please do not answer this question if you find it upsetting in any way)

 
What do you think needs to happen to better protect and support children?

 
Chapter Six

We need to support people to become safe, well and free from abuse.
 
Do you feel safe now?

     
 
Can you tell us about anything or anyone that helped you become safe?

 
Did you receive support after the abuse?


 
Was that support helpful?


 
No one should live in fear. There is help out there.

Get help if you are experiencing abuse : http://bit.ly/SupportLinks
 
Is there anything else you’d like to share?

 
Final reflection

This is your space to upload a picture, audio or video file or a longer document - anything that depicts your own personal journey or your call to action, or any ideas or concerns that haven't been addressed yet.
 
Thank you

Your insight is incredibly valuable. We will be sharing your input with the government and using it to hold them to account when changes are proposed. Keep an eye on our website for updates.

www.safelives.org.uk